It's so easy to become disillusioned when you're constantly being sold something new with the promise of helping cultivate an IG baddie status. "How many different colours do those gel slides come in, again?"
We've been taught to equate personal worth with material wealth, but the truth is you could have all the money in the world, all the clothes/accessories that you want, and never be able to "make" the clothes.
I'll tell you how you can make them though; by living in them, by getting out, walking around, by making those hard decisions not to buy the sandals in every colour. By being you. Clothes that wear the woman instead of the other way around mean that she doesn't feel comfortable.
Maybe she's wearing shoes that are just a few inches too high, or jeans one size tighter than normal or maybe it's the look on her face when she realizes how much she spent on something she already owns ten of. The point being, she's letting clothes or trends dictate her style. Of course, the problem with this is that you end up compromising some sense of self and for what? So you can say you have your whimsical closet? This sounds harsh but I know because I've had clothes wear me before. I know what it looks like and I know what it feels like.
To sum this up a little better I offer you an adaptation from a passage in the 1996 Chuck Palahniuk novel, Fight Club:
You buy clothes. You tell yourself, this is the last coat I will ever need in my life. Buy the coat, then for a couple years you're satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you've got the coat situation handled. Then the right pair or shoes. Then the perfect dress. The handbag. The jewelry. Then you're trapped in your lovely closet, and the things you used to wear, now they wear you.
Written by Hannah Rose Prendergast